Lloyd David Tilbury (1919-1993)

Lloyd
Lloyd David Tilbury AIF ca1940
Lloyd David Tilbury AIF ca1940
Lloyd and Mother Dulcie Tilbury ca1940
Lloyd and Mother Dulcie Tilbury ca1940

1919. Lloyd was born 2 Jul at his parents home, 'Cooinda', Waters Rd, Neutral Bay, Sydney. He was of solid build, though both Dulcie and George were slender. From an early age he was interested in wireless and built himself a radio; he also excelled in sport.

Lloyd was educated at SCEGS ("Shore"), where he served as a Sergeant in the SCEGS Cadet Corps, and in 1937 commenced Law School at Sydney University.

1940. He enlisted with the AIF at Ingleburn (No. NX22356) in May with old and close friend Robert Hope, as Hitler began to move into France. They served with the 2/6th Field Regiment in the Middle East and then in Papua New Guinea. In October, whilst undergoing training at Bathurst, Lloyd was appointed Specialist Group II (Signaller). On 14 Nov they left Australia on the HMS Orion, arriving in the Middle East 18 Dec.

1941. Lloyd spent several periods with the Signals Infantry Battalion AIF and the Artillery Training Regiment, returning to the 2/6th Field Regiment in June. In July he was graded as a Group II Signaller, in Oct promoted to the rank of Acting BOR and in Nov appointed L/Sgt.

1942. On 8 Feb he left the Middle East at Suez on the USS Mt.Vernon, arriving at 4MD [Adelaide,4 Maldon??] on 10 Mar. In June both Clive and Lloyd were granted 10 days Home Leave and on 6 Sep both departed for Port Moresby on the Jason Lee.

1943. Lloyd contracted scrub typhus in February and malaria in March. In Feb he was promoted to the rank of Acting Sergeant. During the war Lloyd corresponded with his cousin Ralph Blacket, who was also serving in Papua New Guinea. Ralph sent Lloyd an army circular regarding the newly formed Australian Diplomatic Corps, suggesting he apply. Lloyd travelled to Port Moresby (and stayed with Ralph) for the interview, which resulted in him being selected as a cadet. On 3 Aug Acting Sergeant Lloyd Tilbury was discharged from war service for appointment to the Department of External Affairs.

1943/44. Lloyd’s first diplomatic posting was as Secretary to the Australian High Commissioner, Sir Iven Mackay, in New Delhi. The passenger ship carrying him to the posting, the Tanda, was sunk by torpedo off the coast of South India. Lloyd had taken with him a large and expensive wardrobe which he had thought appropriate to his new position, but had to dive into the sea in his pyjama trousers. Before jumping from the ship he found on deck an elderly Australian woman, going to India for a last visit to see family members living there. Lloyd tried to talk her into jumping from the ship with him but she was adamant that she would go down with the ship and Lloyd, at the last moment, had to jump from the ship without her, a memory he was never able to forget. During his time in India he travelled on horseback over then almost inaccessible parts of the Himalayas; the Burma war was being fought and the end of the Raj was approaching.

1946. Lloyd attended the Paris Peace Conference on 29 Jul with the Australian Delegation. He then worked with Prof. Mark Oliphant in connection with the Atomic Energy Commission; travelled to London with Prime Minister, Ben Chifley, whose great love was steam engines, to attend the Prime Minister's Conference, and travelled to New York with the brilliant but eccentric Dr. Bert Evatt to attend  a meeting of the Security Council. Lloyd was a wonderful raconteur and his stories of the experiences he had with Dr. Evatt at United Nations conferences were told with great gusto and much humour; they were all astonishing and most were hilarious. Further details of the life of "The Doc" Evatt are included in the Background section.

Article from Sydney Morning Herald, Fri 12 Apr 1946:

Flying-Boat Goes To-morrow

The Prime Minister, Mr. Chifley, and the Minister for External Affairs, Dr. Evatt, will leave Rose Bay by flying-boat at midnight to-morrow for London.

Called Hobart, the big Hythe-class flying-boat has been specially chartered from British Overseas Airways Corporation for the Prime Minister's flight.

Captain J. L. M. Davys, who is in charge of the Hobart, said last night that two air crews, totalling 11 men, would be carried in the flying-boat. This would permit day and night flying on the five-day journey to Britain.

There was ample sleeping accommodation for the Prime Minister's party on board the Hobart.

The Hythe-class flying-boats are used on the Britain-Singapore service, which will shortly be extended to Sydney.

The following officials will accompany Mr. Chifley and Dr. Evatt on their visit to Britain:

Sir Frederick Shedden, secretary, Department of Defence; Dr. H. C. Coombes, Director-General, Department of Post-war Reconstruction; Dr. J. VV. Burton, Counsellor for External Affairs; Mr. Lloyd Tilbury, third secretaiy in the Department of External Affairs; Mr. Sam Landau and Mr. Murray Tyrrell, of the Prime Minister's staff; and Mr. Don Rodgers, the Prime Minister's Press officer.

Mrs. Evatt will accompany the party.

Lloyd and Jean nee Grahame

Lloyd David Tilbury (1919-1993)

Jean Frier Grahame (1921-2013)

  • Father: George Frier Grahame (1888-1965)
  • Mother: Daisy Muriel nee Thompson (1893-1973)
  • Born: 24 Aug 1921, Waimanu Rd, Suva, Fiji
  • Married: 11 Apr 1947, Lloyd David Tilbury, SCEGS Chapel, Sydney
  • Died: 25 Feb 2013, Wesley Gardens Nursing Home, Sydney, NSW
Lloyd David Tilbury Diplomat born 1919 ca1946
Lloyd David Tilbury Diplomat born 1919 ca1946
Jean Frier Grahame born 1921
Jean Frier Grahame born 1921

Certificates

  • Birth 1919 Lloyd David Tilbury
  • Birth 1921 Jean Frier Grahame
  • Marriage 1947 Lloyd David Tilbury, Jean Frier Grahame
  • Death 1993 Lloyd David Tilbury
  • Death 2011 David Frier Tilbury
  • Death 2013 Jean Frier Tilbury nee Grahame
Lloyd Tilbury, Jean Grahame Engagement ca1946
Lloyd Tilbury, Jean Grahame Engagement ca1946
Lloyd Tilbury and Jean Grahame Engagement ca1946
Lloyd Tilbury and Jean Grahame Engagement ca1946
Lloyd David Tilbury Solicitor ca1947
Lloyd David Tilbury Solicitor ca1947
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury with Ron and Helen Lee ca1947
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury with Ron and Helen Lee ca1947
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury Wedding 11 Apr 1947
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury Wedding 11 Apr 1947
Jean Grahame Wedding 11 Apr 1947
Jean Grahame Wedding 11 Apr 1947
Lloyd Jean David Tilbury Christmas Card 1949
Lloyd Jean David Tilbury Christmas Card 1949
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury with young family ca1956
Lloyd and Jean Tilbury with young family ca1956
Lloyd David Tilbury Solicitor ca1980
Lloyd David Tilbury Solicitor ca1980
Death Lloyd Tilbury Maurice Wright
Death Lloyd Tilbury Maurice Wright
Jean Frier Tilbury 1921-2013
Jean Frier Tilbury 1921-2013

1947. After leaving External Affairs Lloyd was admitted as a solicitor. In the same year he was elected inaugural president of the Manly Apex Club and on 11 Apr married Jean Frier Grahame at the SCEGS chapel. At the time he was a Law Clerk living at 6 Shellbank Pd, Cremorne, Sydney. He practised law for five years in partnership with Howard Marks, the father of an army friend at Manly.

1952. The family moved to 'Pine Tree', a 1,300 acre property between Armidale and Guyra and Lloyd became a grazier. As a result of the adversities of the 1950s Lloyd began the Armidale legal practice, running the property at the same time.

On Sat 1 Mar 1952 Lloyd attended the groom at the marriage of Miss Dee Kritsch, only daughter of Mr. and Mrs. D.G. Kritsch, of Cowra, and Mr. Richard Setright, elder son of Mr. and Mrs. T. Setright, of Manly, at St.Mark's Church Darling Point. The reception was held at Florida House.

The family's love of horses resulted in annual 16-mile rides from the property to the Armidale Pony Club, which was a huge event in the calendar. The long hot days resulted in extremely sore muscles and occasional cases of sunstroke; nights were spent in dormitories on the showground, with ghost-stories and possums abundant. In later years the horse population swelled to about 22, local shows were attended and the children instructed at pony camp.

ca1966. Jean was instrumental in setting up the UNE Economics Faculty Seminar Library and carried out the role of Economics Faculty Librarian for two years. Her father's pending death forced her resignation and she spent the final weeks with him in Sydney. She returned to the Library a year or so later, following a period in Lloyd's office as legal clerk.

1972?. The practice flourished, taking up most of Lloyd's time, and the family moved to Armidale to live. It became more and more difficult to run the property and after some years it was sold. The family rented a two-storey English-style residence (complete with driveway designed for carriages) in Jeffrey St. for 12 months before purchasing a house in Erskine St. At this time David owned a unit on Oak Tree Drive, which sister Louise shared for 12 months of her years at university.

1974. Lloyd ceased to work full time and became a consultant, selling the practice to his eldest son David and three employed solicitors. He carried out occasional consultancy work with the firm for about 3 years and filled a locum position in Port Macquarie for about a year. He then withdrew from the profession entirely. He and Jean moved to their newly-built residence on 'Kinloch', a small property four miles out of Armidale on the Blue Hole Rd. Lloyd had become deeply interested in Dressage after moving to Armidale, joined the Armidale Dressage Club with his daughters and spent many happy hours with his horse Minstrel, learning the finer points of the art. The "horse era" ended in 1978 with the sale of the property 'Kinloch'.

1976. Lloyd retired at the age of 55, having been diagnosed with emphysema several years earlier. He fought the disease, became interested in health foods and played golf regularly for many years until arthritis of the hip forced him to look at other forms of exercise.

1981?. Lloyd spent the later years of his life looking for a climate suitable to his health. He and Jean moved to Lismore, building a house on Tregeagle Road at Lindendale, near Alstonville. They remained in Lismore for two years and then moved to Buderim, where they found the humidity overpowering and after 12 months purchased a property at Delphin St, Kenmore, Brisbane. Two years later they moved to a unit in St.Lucia overlooking the Brisbane River and Lloyd began playing bowls. Two years later they joined daughter Linden in Canberra, purchasing a Willemson-designed house at Kambah. They loved Canberra but eventually the cold winters became too much and after four years they moved to Broadwater Court at Kincumber, a new retirement village near Gosford on the NSW Central Coast.

Lloyd was a member of the Council of the University of New England (UNE), president of the Armidale Riding Club and ringmaster of the Armidale Show. He played tennis at state level, loved riding, golf, cricket and later bowls. He looked forward to the Australian Wallabies rugby games for days and spoke with great humour of "putting on his boots" before a game. He was passionate about classical music and maintained a catalogue of his large collection. He was also passionate about literature and language and was comfortable reading French classics.

1993. Lloyd died of cancer 17 May at home at Villa 16, Broadwater Court, Bungoona Rd, Kincumber at the age of 73, on the same day his old friend Maurice (Brud) Wright died of a blood clot after a bump to the head on 'Dyamberin', their property in Armidale. Lloyd was cremated 19 May at the Palmdale Memorial Park & Crematorium, Ourimbah NSW. The Honourable Justice Robert Hope gave a tribute to Lloyd at the memorial service held for him in Armidale and said of him:

“Perhaps his most obvious characteristic was his love of life and his exuberance. He was not a man to do things in half measures. This could be seen, and I have no doubt will be remembered, in his glorious and infectious laughter, laughter which even the restrictions of his last difficult years did little to limit. This laughter was but an expression of his exuberance, and of the intensity of his life. ... He was a person whose exuberance was combined with wit and wisdom, generosity and compassion, to produce a personality which led people who met him to fall under his spell.”

Jean was diagnosed with Alzheimer's several years after Lloyd's death and lived at Wesley Gardens Nursing Home in Sydney until her death 25 Feb 2013.

The Grahames
George Frier Grahame born 1888
George Frier Grahame born 1888
Daisy Muriel Grahame nee Thompson born 1893
Daisy Muriel Grahame nee Thompson born 1893
Helen Frier Grahame born 1920
Helen Frier Grahame born 1920
Jean Frier Grahame born 1921
Jean Frier Grahame born 1921
Jean and Helen Grahame ca1940
Jean and Helen Grahame ca1940

George Frier Grahame (1888-1970) was born 17 Mar 1888 at Newcastle, NSW, the only child of James Frier (-1926) and Hannah nee Gilmour (1854/5-1931). James Frier was a Company Secretary, the son of George and Margaret Grahame. Hannah was the daughter of Hugh and Mary Gilmour. James and Hannah were married 1887 at West Maitland NSW and both died at Newcastle.

Daisy Muriel Thompson (1893/4-1973) was the eldest of four children of Hugh Seaman Thompson (-1948) and Mary nee Walker, married 1892 at Petersham NSW. Hugh was a Merchant, the son of Samuel and Anna Maria nee Ross, who were married 1844. Hugh died 1948 at Burwood NSW. Hugh and Mary's children:

  • Daisy Muriel born 21 Nov 1893 [1894?] at Petersham [Stanmore?]. Known as Mem by her grandchildren.
  • Robert Guy (Guy) born 1895 at Leichhardt. Guy married Audrey B Dight in 1925 at Inverell, NSW.
  • Marjorie Edith (Meg) (1898-1998) born 6 Jan 1898 at Newcastle. Meg married Neil Warden at St. Phillip's, Church Hill and they had 4 children: Faith, Ruth, Bruce and Hugh, 10 grandchildren and 16 great grandchildren. Meg died at the Anglican Retirement Villages, Sydney on 25 Oct 1998.
  • Edna M born 1904. Edna died at the age of 12 from Scarlet Fever.

1909. George studied law at Sydney University and obtained his Arts degree in May of 1909.

1911. In Aug 1911 George was appointed as a Naval Staff Clerk Class II to the Naval Office, Sydney under the Naval Defence Act.

1915. George Grahame BA, LLB was admitted to the Bar of NSW in March on the application of Mr. J.A. Ferguson. George was a Suva Town Councillor for 11 years (1915-25).

1918. George (30) and Daisy (25) were married 11 Dec 1918 at St.Andrew's Presbyterian Church, Newcastle. At the time George, a barrister and solicitor, was living at Suva, Fiji and Daisy was living at Winship St, Hamilton, Newcastle NSW. They had 2 daughters, Helen Frier born 11 Jan 1920 and Jean Frier born 24 Aug 1921 in the Nurse A Dennis’ Nursing Home, Waimanu Rd, Suva, Fiji.

1922. George was Mayor of Suva for two terms (1922-5 and 1932-3). He founded the legal firm of Grahame & Co. at The Ridge, St.Fort St, Suva and became the first president of the Suva Bowling Club. The Bowling Club is located on Grahame Road, a street in Central Suva named after him. [source Fiji Museum]

1934. On 23 Nov 1934 in the Supreme Court in Suva, the Attorney General, Mr. R.S. Thacker, applied to have George struck off the role of barristers and solicitors on the grounds of alleged professional misconduct. George was absolved of the allegation of fraud and the decision on professional misconduct would be given 27 Nov 1934 {results not found].

Daughters Helen and Jean travelled by ship from Fiji to school at Abbotsleigh, Wahroonga NSW once a year. Other school holidays were spent with friends in the country.

George and Daisy spent their later years in Mosman, Sydney. Both died at the Royal North Shore Hospital, St. Leonards - George in 1970 and Daisy in 1972 [1973?].

Helen Frier Grahame (1920-2013)

Helen Frier became engaged to Leading Aircraftman Derick Downes, RAAF on Wed 8 Jan 1941. Derick was thc only son of Mr. and Mrs. R.F.A. Downes, of Aston, Camden. Derick was Killed In Action.

Helen married Ronald Alfred Lee (1916-2000) 8 Oct 1945. Ron was born 3 Dec 1916, the son of Ronald A Lee (1894-) and Kathleen Lee nee Marwedel, grandson of Alfred Lee and Minnie Lee nee Dodds. Helen and Ron had four children:

  • Grahame Alfred married Penny Chenu of France. They divorced in 1979 and Grahame married Maureen Dalton 24 Apr 1999.
  • Alastair Ronald married Helen Mary Horsley 7 Sep 1985 and they had 3 children, twins Edward and Thomas, and Robert.
  • Stuart Alfred (1953-1987) was born 17 Sep 1953. He married Suzanne Pye McMillan 18 Feb 1985 and they had a daughter, Phillipa Jane, who was born after Stuart's death, resulting from his plane crashing on their property 2 Jul 1987.
  • Melissa Helen married Andrew Heathfield Eliot 18 Feb 1985 and they had 4 children: Dougal, Stuart, Camilla and Nichola.

Helen Lee nee Grahame suffered from Alzheimer's and lived in a nursing home in Walcha until her death 12 Mar 2013.

Jean Frier Grahame (1921-2013)

Jean attended Sydney University from 1939-1943 and was awarded an Economics degree. For a short period after obtaining her degree, Jean was employed as a statistical clerk with the Australian Gaslight Company (AGC). Following this she was employed as a records clerk in the Department of Commerce & Agriculture, then on the Australian Meat Board until shortly after her marriage. After Lloyd and Jean moved to Armidale, George & Daisy bought a house in Armidale at the corner of Kirkwood St and College Ave with a view to retiring there but the cold winter drove them to return to Sydney after only a year.

George was very deaf and daughter Jean and grandchildren David Fried and Linden Jane were all to suffer from Otosclerosis, an inherited form of deafness. With no other deafness in the family it was assumed that it was inherited from George.

Children of Lloyd and Jean
David Frier Tilbury 1948-2011
David Frier Tilbury 1948-2011
  • David Frier (1948-2011) was born 1 Jun 1948 at Mater Maternity, North Sydney, while Lloyd and Jean were living at Cremorne. He married Celia Hilary Wileman and had two sons: Scott and Alex. David studied Law at Sydney University (St.Andrew's College) and carried on his father's law firm in Armidale in partnership with 3 other solicitors. After selling his share of the practice in Armidale David and his family moved to Sydney. He died 25 Oct 2011 after a long battle with cancer caused by a metastasized melanoma. He was cremated 2 Nov 2011 at the North Shore Crematorium and a memorial service was held at St.Swithin's Anglican Church Pymble. The church was overflowing and attendees had to be seated in the choir stalls and on seats placed down the aisles to accommodate the numbers. A marvellous service and a fitting send-off.
  • James Clive married Judith Helen Hunter of New Zealand. They settled in Fiji and bought a 245-acre freehold peninsula, which James developed into a prawn farm. James and Judy have retired and are selling their unique piece of paradise (details at http://www.forsalefiji.com). They have three daughters and four grandchildren: Kimberley and her partner Vic live in Fiji and have a daughter, Malia and a son, Manoa; Ilona and her husband Chris Killeen live in New Zealand and have a daughter, Molly and son, Moss; Ella lives in Fiji.
  • Linden Jane lives in Queensland.
  • Louise Helen married David Lloyd Cahill and they have three children: Camilla, James and Michael. They live in Sydney.

Comments

  • Barbara Dodds5 years ago

    Ronald Alfred Lee IS the Grandson of Alfred Lee and Minnie Lee (Nee Dodds) Ronald Is the Son of Ronald Lee and and Kathleen Lee (nee Marwedel)

    • Linden5 years ago

      Many thanks Barbara, great to remove another 'maybe'.  I've updated the details. Cheers, Linden

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